It has been an immense privilege to work with Del both a one on one basis and in a group setting; my only wish is that I had been introduced to her sooner. Unlike traditional therapy, the 3Ps gave me the tools to break the patterns created during my past narcissistic abusive relationship that were showing up elsewhere in my life so that I could live more peacefully within. The TWO program helped to solidify what I had been working on with Del individually while also meeting others in different stages of their healing. There can be such an isolating feeling when you are in an abusive cycle/healing from abuse. The power of being with people who have shared my experience was immeasurably helpful to my healing.
In April 2020, I was in the middle of relocating to New York City with my four-year-old daughter when I received notification that my job would be eliminated in six months’ time. As a single mom with a new mortgage and a sad daughter finding her way in the “big city”, I suddenly felt the weight of the world on my shoulders and old feelings of doubt, worthlessness and failure set in. I felt myself sliding into old patterns of self-doubt. I contacted Del at the suggestion of a friend. Del was able to help me navigate the challenges of the past year with her calm demeanor, deep understanding, and simple and practical advice. I am grateful that we connected and find myself not only in a better job now in 2022 but more importantly with my sense of self and self-confidence intact.
Upon recommendation I took Del’s 6 week program about Codependency & Narcissistic Personalities. At the time I had been deeply struggling through a 3 year relationship with a narcissist and I couldn’t get control over my life.
After the class had ended, Del took me on as a client and did individual therapy with me for several weeks.
Del has such an incredible amount of knowledge and I learned more and more from her about the dynamic I was trapped in and what was really happening to me.
What had the most impact on me was how she shared her own personal stories. She showed such understanding and compassion because she herself had lived through incredibly painful times. I finally felt understood. And each time I sat with her, I could see she was unshakable and her calmness and inner peace just radiated from her. I continue to think to myself, what a courageous, incredible, resilient and strong woman.
Del never judged my thoughts or feelings and always helped me find answers and solutions. She met me where I was every time and just kept walking with me until I was able to take steps on my own.
Del has been a critical part of my healing. If it weren’t for her I would still be struggling in a relationship that was crippling me and my life.
Del, I cannot thank you enough for all the kindness and love you have shown me, for all the strength and knowledge you have given me and for helping me regain power over my life again. It was not by chance or coincidence you came into my life. I am so very grateful and thankful and I will carry all your advice and love with me each day as I continue to heal and look ahead with excitement for good things to come.
'Having had a less than orthodox childhood, and a father that was absent, I grew up with abandonment issues and often chose men that were exactly like my father - narcissistic and unavailable. I was constantly trying to be ‘who they wanted me to be’ to win their love and approval. I finally was able to break this cycle with the help of the amazing workshop I took with Del Adey-Jones on narcissistic and co-dependent relationships. Del is extremely knowledgeable in this realm and creates a safe space to move past these issues without judgment or criticism. The course is thorough and completely enlightening! I learned so much. She allows time for questions and interaction, also sharing literature and her own experiences in a calm and loving manner. I highly recommend this course to anyone wishing to break free of the cycle of choosing narcissistic partners, interacting with narcissistic friends or family members, and for those wishing to become their authentic self in all their relationships moving forward. The course was invaluable to me'
'Del is an incredible coach and has been such a vital part of my healing journey. No matter how off I may feel at the beginning of a session, by the end I am breathing deeper and often smiling. She has an uncanny ability to always guide me back to my center regardless of how big the storm is I may be experiencing. Her calm, empathetic, and loving presence is so soothing and I feel 100% heard and supported when she is listening to me. I cannot recommend Del as a coach enough!'
'I recently had the pleasure of listening to Del discussing Codependency and Narcissism. Having lived this, herself made her the perfect coach to bring lots of information to others.
As I listened to the 6 weekly sessions, many things Del spoke about resonated with myself and a relationship that I was in. Del speaks with a calm, kind, non -judgmental demeanor and can laugh at some of the things that she experienced during her relationships. This was very helpful to me and will be to others too. Thanks, Del.'
“This course was beyond my expectations!!! Del provided an explicit explanation to help me better understand narcissistic behavior, which I thought I already knew, with a tender unpacking of co-dependent behavior so that I didn’t feel shame or embarrassment. I also loved the fellow participants and was often surprised by how much I learned from their experiences. The practical tips have already been put to use! I am still on the journey but my behavior has shifted.”
‘I am so grateful that I signed up for Del’s 6 -Week course, “The Way Out of Codependency and Narcissistic Abuse”. It was so enlightening to be in a group with women who are struggling with the same issues, and Del is such an empathetic leader. The course helped me understand a pattern of behavior I had adopted and ways to look at everything differently. My daughters have even said how much positive change they notice.’
'Andi and Del created an incredible journey of self-discovery and enlightenment. By sharing their own life experiences and humanizing life's ups and downs it helped me through a challenging time. I looked forward to each week as I reflected on the prior week! I felt lighter and happier as the weeks progressed. No matter what stage of life your at, there is always something to learn and take away from these powerful women." Thank you ladies'
I wanted to do the programme because I recognized a lot of co-dependency in myself which I think started as a child with a narcissistic mother and then followed the pattern and married a man with a lot of similar characteristics. The programme helped me see some of my own behavior patterns which haven’t been helpful over the years and I am now giving myself permission to recognize when I am uncomfortable with a situation and verbalize my needs more. I have had a couple of conversations with my husband about our relationship and him taking me for granted which had opened both our eyes to the fact that we had been playing out the same patterns for many years.
I felt calm while I was talking to him and I didn’t feel the usual guilt about speaking my needs and maybe making him unhappy or uncomfortable. I know now that he has the same ability to bounce back from low moods and discomfort and it’s not my job to make him happy all the time. Now instead of feeling like I’ve done something wrong or that I need to fix him when he’s had a bad day, I just do my own thing and allow him to come back to balance without me having a though storm about it. It makes life a lot easier.